As someone who loves to design spaces for my kids, I put a lot of thought and effort into their bedrooms. I've been through the process a few times now, and I've learned a few tricks for balancing their input with practical design decisions.
Here are some strategies I've used to make sure my children feel involved while still creating a space that can grow with them, and won't require major changes each time their interests change ...and if your kids are anything like mine, you know this can happen quite frequently!
1. Vet Their Options
One thing I've found very effective is giving my kids choices from a selection I've already approved. For example, when choosing wallpaper, I'll pick out 2-3 samples that I love and then let them decide from those options. It's a great way to involve them without risking a design choice that doesn't work in the long term. As my kids have gotten older, they've become more opinionated about what they want, but as I mentioned, I'm also aware that their tastes can change quickly. By narrowing down the choices to things I like, they still get to make decisions, and we're not stuck with something they'll outgrow in a few months.
2. Limit Their Input on Major Decisions
This approach varies depending on your child's age and personality, but I've found it helpful to limit their input on big-ticket items like furniture. For example, when choosing a bed, I might not show them all the options unless I'm okay with many of them. Instead, I pick something I like and then get them excited about it by talking up the fun details, like new sheets or cool pillows. In our last home, my kids were much more interested in the bedding than the bed frame, which was a good reminder that sometimes the smaller details matter more to them.
3. Incorporate Their Evolving Interests
Kids go through phases—princesses, trucks, unicorns, you name it. While it's tempting to go all out with themed decor, I've learned to keep the main elements of their rooms more neutral. This doesn't mean boring; it's more about flexibility. I add their current interests through easily changeable items like throw pillows, sheets, frames (gallery walls are a great option!), or pinboards. This way, their room feels personal and fun without being locked into a theme they might outgrow next month.
Including kids in the design process has been a fun and rewarding part of building our homes. It allows them to express themselves and feel a sense of ownership over their space, all while keeping the overall design practical and adaptable for the future. I also love that they are interested in something that I am so passionate about...it's a win/win!
Xo
Caroline
Mood Board Inspired by Stella
